You were told this would be the happiest moment of your life.
Time goes by, and you feel nothing
but physically and mentally depleted.
I know how it´s like to feel lost after becoming a mother. You might feel overwhelmed trying to bond with your baby and feeling pressured to enjoy motherhood but all you feel is exhausted, guilty, and not the perfect mother you wished to be.
You might be experiencing that your needs are on hold, and finding it hard to connect to your old self whilst getting to know your new identity as a mother.
The truth is, it´s unbelievably demanding to be so intimately and constantly needed by your baby. You are giving so much to your baby, who is so dependent on you that you feel there is no energy left in your mind for your new you.
This is why I created The Holding Mother Sessions
- so you can feel heard, seen, and embraced when you most need it.
Perhaps you are afraid of speaking to your GP.
Perhaps you can´t name what you are feeling but know you are struggling.
Perhaps you know you need help, but don´t know what kind of help exists.
Perhaps you just need to speak to someone who will listen.
Perhaps you need to make sense of your birth story.
How will this help?
These encounters will help you to become aware of why you are feeling the way you are and help you to cope with the big emotions.
Sometimes only verbalising what you feel might make the load much lighter and easier to cope with.
Having someone responding to your emotional needs will in turn make you feel more available to respond to your baby´s needs and more confident about the hard task of caring for your baby.
It will help you to feel less guilty, more generous, and compassionate about yourself.
Sometimes, further professional help is needed. I can guide you through your feelings and together we can think about what professional help you might want to look for.
There is no such thing as a perfect parent.
Good-enough is just the right measure.